Did you ever meet that one couple who literally made everything childproof that when you went over you couldn’t open anything or use the bathroom?

Yeah me neither. I don’t see over childproofing like that or even at all, but I know some parents do it and some go over the top that it may feel like they childproof everything.

I believe that most parents who have their first kind of go over the top for child proofing, but then by their second kid it isn’t as much as a necessity as it was before. But why do we need to childproof? I mean we didn’t always have to and obviously people turned out fine.


In a basic answer it is to protect the child from certain dangers in the house. Usually it is outlets, stairs, cabinets that could contain cleaning products, fire places, and the other places that are dangerous to a toddler that doesn’t know why everything is yet.

The main areas of childproofing that you want to make sure to get, based off these articles, are the doors, stairs, balconies, basement, garage, and pools. Making sure you minimize the risk of your child being in this are the better.


Of course a big one that most parents do is fill in the electric sockets. Another basic type of childproofing would be covering sharp edges with cushions in case the child was the fall near it.

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Potty Training


A fun time for every parent raising a kid is when it comes time to potty train. To me I would probably have a hard time training any kid currently in my life how to use the bathroom. I mean it just something I know naturally know how to do now. So this blog will be very helpful for me and other likes me who has no idea what to expect when it comes to potty training.

So let’s start off with some basics:

One thing you need to be sure of is that your toddler is ready to potty train, not just for you. This will make it easier if they want to do and that why it isn’t battle trying to force them do so. If forced it may take longer for your kid to learn how to potty train or to at least actually do what you are asking them to do.

How do you know that your child is ready to be potty trained? Well their are some physical signs and behavioral signs that can help indicate if they want to begin the potty process. Has longer period of being “dry” like during naps or for at least two hours. They have a regular form of bowel movements that can easily be predicted. They also start to show a desire for Independence. Sometimes that will ask you before you ask them about potty training. They show interest in the bathroom and how things in one works. Just having a more basic development of cognitive and physical abilities that help show that your child is physically (not mindset wise) ready to be potty trained.

I see multiple articles for how to potty train in a week or how to potty train in three days. I have no idea how long this is suppose to take on average for kids to efficiently be able to use the potty without majority of the adult’s help, but three days seem like a bit too quick for a child to move from diapers to peeing and popping in the toilet.


Now that your child is ready to potty train what do you do? How do you go about them throught the process. Well,

  1. you mentally prepare yourself and your child what is about to happen. Make sure you have a conversation that lets the child know what is going to go on from now on with the training
  2. buy the right equipment. Instead of them using the grown up toilet right away, which can be very intimidating, buy them a smaller potty that mimics the bigger toilet and then move up the kid seat that you would place onto the toilet.
  3. design a routine. Start figuring out your child’s bowel movement and set a schedule that allows you to use those times once or twice a day to practice with a potty.
  4. demonstrate. A good way for children to learn is imitating what the adult is doing. So practice peeing while sitting down with your child and showing the steps they would take from start to finish.
  5. foster the habit. Let your child know that it is okay for them to sit on potty whenever they feel like they have to go, even if they don’t really have to go. This is help with practice of sitting on the toilet and patience for the child when it comes to potting.
  6. move up to training pants. This could be used as a reward when the child is moving up in the potty training process. This also lets your kid know that now is the time to stop peeing/pooping in diapers, but in the potty
  7. handle setbacks carefully. Problems will occur and sometimes you feel like you will have to restart another step over. That is fine and make sure the child knows that it is fine too. The more pressure and anxiety they get when learning to use the potty the longer and longer it will take.
  8. introduce night training. Up until this point your child should be in wearing training pants during the day and pull ups during the night since kids aren’t just yet able to control their bladder or movements at night. If they seem to start staying dry consistently throughout the night then you can use pull ups less and less frequently.
  9. You have completed potty training!


References – Articles and Images:

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Pros and Cons of Pacifiers


One thing I remember hearing from my close friend who is currently pregnant is that she does not want to give her baby a pacifier. From her experience, her younger brother was heavily dependent and she didn’t think it was good for him to be using one, so she is against. I told her she might change her mind if you were to want something to soothe her baby if they find that nothing else works.

I don’t think pacifiers are controversial, but people definitely have an opinion on whether they personally want to use pacifiers or not. Also, have different ideas of how long to use them and when to get rid of them. So here is a list of pros and cons of pacifiers.



  • a lot of articles talk about a study that found SIDS (sudden infant death syndrome) is reduced with pacifier usage.
  • good way to make sure your baby doesn’t pick up the habit of thumb sucking, since that would be harder to break
  • convenient and easy to carry around
  • allows the child to suck when full if it wants to continue to do so
  • it allows parents to calm their child while preparing to feed them


  • dependency can be hard for parent and child when trying to give the pacifiers
  • can contain a lot germs due to being dropped on the floor or thrown in bags
  • can cause problems while breastfeeding due to differences in a nipple and a pacifier

One article I read by BabyCenter suggest that you give the pacify around 1 month so by then they are healthy and growing due to a healthy eating habit whether it be bottle or breast milk. Then, give up the pacify around 1 year. Within that year do not overuse the pacify to make it easier to give up the habit.

They also suggest that you don’t give a baby a pacifier if they have trouble gaining weight or as a way to delay eating


For the most part just make sure you aren’t over using the pacifier and trying to find other ways that can also soothe your baby without always resorting to a pacifier.

Reference – Articles and Images:

Reviewed by the BabyCenter Medical Advisory BoardLast updated: March 2016. (2017, April 14). Pacifiers: Pros, cons, and smart ways to use them. Retrieved April 11, 2017, from

Myers, B. P. (2015, May 16). Pacifier Pros and Cons -. Retrieved April 11, 2017, from

It’s Our Wonderful Life (n.d). GIVING UP THE PACIFIER [YouTube]. Retrieved April 11, 2017, from

Mansueto, N. (2016, March 1). Dog Who thinks He’s A Baby Won’t Give Up His Pacifier [Digital image]. Retrieved April 11, 2017, from

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Working Moms and Maternity Leave

Being a mother is a full time job. Now add in your actual full time job. Sounds very stressful. In this blog I am going to talk about a stressors for mothers who raise kids and have a full time job. That stressor is maternity leave.

The issue of maternity leave has gotten better to a certain extent. The U.S. has always been the one to fall behind other countries, especially when it comes to maternity leave. At one point in time having children for women meant not being able to have a career, since employers did not want to hire married women who was still of the age to have children. If they did hire her, her job security wasn’t that great.

Some of this is still here today. In job interviews you are not allowed to ask candidates about their age, marriage, or children/desire to have children, but employers still find a way around this very discreetly. Unfortunately for women in America comes at a high price.


A big help for maternity leave was the Family and Medical Leave Act in 1993! 1993 y’all!!

This as far as I believe is the only law put in place that protects American women who have children with their jobs. The only downside is that this doesn’t promise them paid leave, but 12 weeks of unpaid leave. After 12 weeks your job is as secure as it was before and lead to termination if not returned by then.

This can be painful for the mother who wants to spend more time with her child, but has to rush back to work due to the fact that they need the money. The majority of families in the U.S. are dual income families. Without that second paycheck these new parents can find them self in a tight spot when it comes to their new financial responsibility.

This also doesn’t add into the fact of paternity leave. It is automatically assumed that only women need time off to be with the new born child, but he father is off back to his masculine role as the bread winner. This unfair for the father, mother, and the child that want to build a intimate tight bound with one another in the early stage of their child’s life.

I believe that the U.S. has a lot of stepping up to do. This unacceptable to treat hard working Americans and their families. This also shows how the discrimination against women in the workplace hasn’t changed much since they are still having to walk a tight rope between having a successful career and having a family (which is something the male doesn’t have to do.)

References – Articles and Images:

Lyons, J. (2016, March 11). Working Moms Who Make It Work: Real Advice for Young Professionals. Retrieved April 10, 2017, from

Maternity leave: How other moms made it work. (2017, April 17). Retrieved April 10, 2017, from

Etehad, M., & Lin, J. C. (2016, August 13). Analysis | The world is getting better at paid maternity leave. The U.S. is not. Retrieved April 10, 2017, from

Traister, R. (2015, February 02). Why Women Can’t Break Free from the Parent Trap. Retrieved April 10, 2017, from

Baskoun , M. (2017, March 16). Working moms: Rock your maternity leave! [Digital image]. Retrieved April 10, 2017, from

Karol, G. (2012, November 16). Maternity Leave Overachieving: The Latest Workplace Trend? [Digital image]. Retrieved April 10, 2017, from

Dutton, J. (2015, February 24). 13 Maternity Leave Horror Stories From Working Moms [Digital image]. Retrieved April 10, 2017, from


Self Care for Hard Working Moms


You know what is really important: your sanity, your physical health, and your overall well-being.

These are things that sometimes hard working career women who are also mothers (even mothers in general) don’t get to keep up with. Sometimes it is hard to take care of yourself when you have to take care of the kids, the laundry, the dishes, paper work, your boss, your co-workers, your pets, and every other small thing that overcrowds your day.

I am a super big supporter of self-care. I’m only in college without a husband and without kids, but I work two part-time jobs and I am a full time student and life gets hard! I can’t imagine how hard it would be if I had a toddler running around or more!

So I want to help some mothers out there find a way to take care of them self because according to Kristina Kuzmic, you are a priority.

So here are some great self care tips for you to try!

  1. ask for help – how is this self care? Well by getting others around you to take part in the work load you will be able to carry less and find more time to relax
  2. take a bath
  3. go on a walk
  4. watch an episode of your favorite show
  5. eat your favorite snack: like that mom did when she was hiding from her kids in the pantry
  6. mediate – you can find many great mediation videos on YouTube or at
  7. breathe – so this doesn’t have to be some form of meditation, but just having a quiet time to yourself to just breath and refresh your mind.
  8. exercise – definitely a great stress reliver that will make you feel healthy and happy
  9. take a nap – probably one of the best things you can do is get more sleep
  10. go out – whether it be with the girls or a nice night out with your partner
  11. read – this is a good one for me because I enjoy having a good book to read

If you want more self care tips in general or specifically for moms, Huffington Post has a forum where women post articles of the things that they do for self care! The link is here.

References – Articles and Images:

J. (2015, May 20). Who’s Taking Care of You [Digital image]. Retrieved April 10, 2017.

S. (2017, March 31). 20 Simple Ways to Take Great Care of Yourself. Retrieved April 10, 2017, from

Moms Self Care. (n.d.). Retrieved April 10, 2017, from



I don’t think I need to make an extravagant/extra descriptive title for this because I believe some people would already know exactly what I am about to talk about.

Why do we treat dads like crap.

Now I am not saying that you personally are being a rude, obnoxious person to your dad, but the world is being terrible to dads everyone. Especially when it comes to the media.

Dads are portrayed all the time as incapable, clueless humans when it comes to children. We are basically dumbing down the mentality of the father. If you ever seen a movie where the dad is left in charge then you notice that their is chaos, destruction, and overall panic throughout the whole experience. Other times the father is portrayed as uninterested in the child, lazy, or just plain stupid. A good example would be Homer Simpson, Peter Griffin, Al Bundy.

Why is it that we portray dads in such a horrible light?

The first image I have put up is how the media would portray your average dad, but would you believe when I say most dads actually want to participants in their child’s rearing?


For the longest time women have been the party that is expected to raise the children and all of their needs, while the dad works. An idea that is sometimes still expressed today, but should have long ago been forgotten. We live in a dual income society where men and women now work with the child being taken care of while they are gone by a third party. The dynamic has changed and so has the thoughts of all the dads out there, but because of the continued view of dads role in the raising of their children we have some discrepancies that also need to be fixed and that is that child rearing is a woman’s work:

  • “16 percent of men share the family work relatively equally” (Rubin, 1994 p. 260)
  •  “husbands were doing about 14 hours of housework per week (compared to 31 hours for wives)” (Kimmel, 2010 p. 163)
  • Fathers average only 5.5% hours a week [of childcare duties], mothers averaged closer to 20 (19.5) hours a week – a 350 percent difference” (Kimmel, 2010 p. 164)

This is crazy. Men don’t do anywhere close to women do and they both work!

So, how can we change this in the world around us?

  • Start uplifting dads: using encouraging words and changing our language to make it fit to being a dad, not a incapable slob!
  • Start engaging fathers early!: let boys babysit, get men involved with some of the work, let boys understand from a young age that they are capable and fully prepared in the future for raising their children.
  • “Raising” their children, not “babysitting”: dad’s don’t babysit. They do their job, which is something they signed up for when them and their partner decided to have children.
  • No more chaos!: no more portrayals of dad’s in the media as incompetent and uneducated about their children’s needs
  • Take charge!: take your role as a dad seriously and start carrying the workload. Don’t believe others when they tell you that you can’t because you know you can!

It is definitely getting better with more videos and people speaking up about the issues we place on dads. We just need to get going to change the way we view dad’s for the betterment of their relationship with their children and with the way they view themselves!

If you want watch dads being awesome hard working parents then watch these clips:

References – Articles and Images:

Sanders, R. (n.d.). The Father Factor. Retrieved April 9, 2017, from

Zinn, M. B., Hondagneu-Sotelo, P., & Messner, M. A. (2016). Gender through the prism of difference (5th ed.). New York: Oxford University Press.

Phillips, N. (2015, March 4). A Father But Not a Dad [Digital image]. Retrieved April 9, 2017.

10 Things Only People Who Have a Playful Dad Understand [Digital image]. (2015, April & may). Retrieved April 9, 2017.

Breast Feeding: What’s the Issue?


Okay, so there is nothing that bothers me more than when I see people getting upset about mothers breastfeeding. Why?!

Well, we have sexualized the mess out of women’s bodies, especially their boobs. Apparently an infant being feed is just too sexy for people that it has to be obscene. The argument that most people give back

Here is a very funny comic that shows the irony of those who are against breastfeeding in public.

oh the irony

And also a video: Breastfeeding in Public (Social Experiment)

And also research: Breastfeeding in public ‘still frowned upon’: Mothers made to feel ‘marginalized and ashamed’. study finds..

Like what more do I need to give you to help you understand that our view of public breastfeeding is messed up!

If the child was being bottle-fed you would not make the mother take it to the bathroom to feed it. Who wants to eat in a bathroom! You wouldn’t so why would you make a baby do so.

Then people talk about you wanting to cover them up. You wouldn’t cover up your whole head while eating. It would get hot, sweaty, and uncomfortable. So why do we make mothers who breastfeed their babies do it?

One of my favorite moms here, Kristina Kumic, here to talk to you about why women should not breastfeed in public. Definitely worth the watch. “4 Reasons Women Should NEVER Breastfeed in Public”

My opinion. Let women breastfeed. It already hard enough being a new mother without having to deal with the public shaming you for being a good mother. Next time don’t stare at that woman kind of weird because she is feeding her child because if that child wasn’t there you would be a happy to see what she has going on.

References – Articles and Images:

Breastfeeding in Public • (2017, January 07). Retrieved April 9, 2017, from

No Breastfeeding General Signs [Digital image]. (n.d.). Retrieved April 9, 2017, from

W. (2014, June 11). Breastfeeding in Public [Digital image]. Retrieved April 9, 2017, from




Growing up I never thought of anything negative about co-sleeping. I assumed that was something that all parents did with their children. Also, I am not saying that co-sleeping is completely bad, it has positive aspects to it, but when we weigh the pros and cons which is better?

People believe that sharing a bed with your baby helps build stronger bonds, makes nursing in the middle of the night easy, and increases time spent with your baby. They also see co-sleeping as a way for both the mother and baby to get more sleep throughout the night

However, AAP (American Academy of Pediatrics) strongly advises against sleeping in the bed due to safety reasons. This reason would rolling on the baby, suffocating due to pillows, or tangled into the blankets on the bed. Others also argue that there is actually less sleep for the adult due to the constant tossing and turning of infants in the bed.

A good way to avoid the cons and to enjoy all the benefits without sleeping in the same bed is allowing the child to stay in your in a crib or in a side bed that attaches to your bed. As shown below.



I myself would be too nervous to have the child right next to me in the bed. I enjoy the space of a big bed and like to move around a lot. I think the bed side crib a is perfect resolution to the cons by still allowing the child and mother experience the pros.

References – Articles and Images:

A. (2017, March 09). 5 Amazing Benefits Of Co-Sleeping With Your Baby. Retrieved April 8, 2017, from

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Chicco Next2Me Bedside Crib [Digital image]. (n.d.). Retrieved April 8, 2017, from

Types of Child Mistreatment

Disclaimer: there may be information in this article that is hard or triggering for other to read.


Unfortunately when we talk about the development of children we also have to talk about the mistreatment the some children will experience in this world and how this effects their development. This definitely a heavy topic and not one that many people can stomach the conversation, but it is one that we need to have. It is one we need to raise awareness for. As someone who is big in advocating for the rights of others and wants to work as a victim advocate or a counselor for children, I believe that education on what types of abuse there are and how to spot them are very important.

  • Physical abuse – this is characterized by physical injury that is resulted from beating, kicking, burning, or anything that will physically harm the child. This can come from purposely harming a child or excessive physical punishment
  • Child neglect – this is characterized by a failure to provide and take care of a child’s basic needs. It can be physcial, educational, or emotional. It is the most seen form of child mistreament, shown 3 times more than abuse
  • Sexual abuse – this is characterized by fondling of child’s genitals, intercourse, incest, rape, sodomy, and more things that come with having a sexual experience with a child
  • Emotional abuse – this is characterized by acts by parents of caregivers that have/could cause serious behavioral, cognitive, or emotional problems.

Signs of abuse can be seen in developmental problems due to the abuse. Children who experience abuse are more likely to have:

  • poor emotion regulation
  • difficulty with attachment
  • difficulty in reactions in social situations
  • mental health issues – depression, anxiety, low self-esteem
  • difficulty in school – lower grades, getting into more trouble than usual

Signs of physical abuse

  • often get injured
  • pattern in these injuries
  • injuries at parts of the body that are usually protected
  • story about the injuries change
  • no medical care for injuries

Signs of sexual abuse

  • not wanting to go to restroom
  • have discharge from genitals
  • bleed through pants
  • signs of discomfort while sitting or using the restroom

Signs of emotional abuse

  • avoids particular parent
  • harms them self on purpose
  • doesn’t care surroundings
  • acts more fearful, angry, or sad (more than usual)

Sign of neglect

  • very underweight/overweight
  • sick or tired all the time
  • dirty with poor personal hygiene

These problems can also stem into adulthood where mistreated adults have physical, emotional, and sexual problems. (Santrock, 2011, p. 294) A study done in 2013 shows that young adults that experienced.

Knowing this information is very beneficial for the future if you were to be in profession or in an area were you would be around kids a majority of a time.

There are many ways to prevent these type of situations: advocacy and what this blog is doing now, which is education. Having more resources for certain professions to be better equip to help a child would be beneficial. Also knowing that it is your responsibility to say something to someone if you were to notice any sign that a child is being abused.

References – Articles and Images:

Santrock, J. W. (2011). Children (13th ed.). New York : McGraw-Hill Humanities.

Child Abuse and Neglect – Symptoms. (n.d.). Retrieved April 8, 2017, from

Overview of Child Maltreatment – Pediatrics. (n.d.). Retrieved April 8, 2017, from

Recato, A. (2016, April 11). The Truth About Child Abuse [Digital image]. Retrieved April 8, 2017, from

LGBTQIA Community and Raising Children

In this blog I want to discuss a topic that I find quite crazy that it is a conversation that needs to be had anyways and that is people of the LGBTQIA raising kids.

I have pretty strong ties to the community due to my personal self and to a lot of my friends who are also a part of this community. I baffles me the lack of acceptance that is had for this group of people, but sometimes you can see that it is getting better.

There was/is an issue of allowing members of the LGBTQIA community adopting kids. People believed gays and lesbians aren’t fit to be parents because:

  • they don’t have stable relationships
  • their sexual orientation will cause their children to grow up gay
  • lesbians and gays will more likely to molest their children (wow)
  • children raised by the LGBTQIA community will subjected to harassment
  • and many, many more reasons that have proven to not be true!!

Countless articles state that their is no evidence that LGBTQIA members who raise children will affect their child’s sexuality or that any of the children are at a disadvantage for having gay parents. There is just no evidence that any of the given points above are true.

However, there is evidence that sometimes, LGBT parents help kids for the better.
A study published in the journal Pediatrics (by Nanette Gartrell) “found that children raise by lesbian mothers scored very similarly to children raised by heterosexual parents on measure of development and social behavior…however, they were surprised to discover that children in lesbian homes scored higher than kids in straight families on some psychological measure of self-esteem and confidence, did better academically and were less likely to have behavioral problems…” (Park, 2010)

Now correlation doesn’t equal causation, but still, there is no evidence that says that the LGBT is worse at raising children then straight families. I mean there is insect, assault, abuse and other types violence in a heterosexual family, but that doesn’t matter because it “moral” to have a mother and a father.

In my opinion they are doing much better than the parents who couldn’t keep their kid to raise them, you know since thousands of children are in the foster care system and need homes! I believe that we should allow them to adopt children so that they can have a happy family and make some children sitting in the foster system happy.

References – Articles and Images:

Overview of Lesbian and Gay Parenting, Adoption and Foster Care. (n.d.). Retrieved April 7, 2017, from

Santrock, J. W. (2011). Children (13th ed.). New York : McGraw-Hill Humanities.

Park, A. (2010, June 07). Study: Children of Lesbians May Do Better Than Their Peers. Retrieved April 7, 2017, from,8599,1994480,00.html

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